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被討厭的勇氣:自我啟發之父「阿德勒」的教導

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被討厭的勇氣:自我啟發之父「阿德勒」的教導, 300 2014 20144 Alfred Adler1870 1937 xxxxxx Unicorn Matsu muku TSUTAYA 19561989 1973

作者:岸見一郎,古賀史健 |譯者:葉小燕


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★戴爾.卡內基:「阿德勒是畢生研究人類及其潛力的偉大心理學家!」
★與佛洛依德、榮格齊名,並稱「心理學三巨頭」。阿德勒除了是心理學發展承先啟後之人,更堪稱自我啟發之父!


  所謂的自由,就是被別人討厭。
  有人討厭你,正是你行使自由、依照自己的生活方針過日子的標記。


  為什麼人們一直無法改變?
  為什麼自卑感總是揮之不去?
  為什麼我們總是活在別人的期待之下?
  為什麼現在無法真實感受到幸福?
  或許是因為,我們缺少了被別人討厭的勇氣!

  一名憤世嫉俗的年輕人來到哲學家的小屋。
  當他聽聞哲學家主張「世界無比單純,人人都能幸福」,便決心前來推翻這種謬論。
  這個世界明明複雜混亂,哪裡單純了?
  如果幸福真的這麼容易,為什麼他還會過得這麼痛苦?

  他們開始了你來我往的思考與論辯。
  年輕人原以為哲學家不過是昧於現實的昏庸老頭,
  但是一夜又一夜過去後,年輕人反而陷入沉思:這世界到底是什麼樣子?
  「所謂的自由,就是被別人討厭。」哲學家說。
  怎麼會這樣?怎麼會有人想被別人討厭?
  想得到真正的自由,又為什麼非得被別人討厭不可呢?
  這個世界,究竟是單純,還是複雜?人,到底能不能得到幸福?……

  問題不在於「世界」是什麼樣子,而在於「你」是什麼樣子。

  阿爾弗雷德.阿德勒(Alfred Adler,1870-1937)

  出生於維也納,是一位醫師、心理學家、兒童教育家,也是「個體心理學」的創始人,與佛洛伊德、榮格同為心理學三巨頭之一。他相信人的一切行為都有目的,並認為每個人都是不同的個體,研究過程也應該以個人的特殊心理經驗為對象。阿德勒的學說讓心理學從「生物性」轉向「社會性」,對心理學發展具有相當重要的意義,許多治療學派也都引用他的學說,他更被奉為家族治療的鼻祖。

各界好評

  來自各界的勇氣推薦!


  知名作家|蔡康永 卡內基訓練大中華地區負責人|黑幼龍 作家、精神科醫師|王浩威
  心理諮商師|蘇絢慧 心理諮商師|許皓宜 心理諮商師|黃錦敦 諮商輔導博士|黃士鈞(哈克)
  身心靈作家|張德芬 逗點文創負責人|陳夏民 影評人|膝關節 資深譯者|陳系美 勇氣推薦

  這本書寫出許多我在小說創作中,至今仍不斷思考、想要了解的事。書中許多字句讓我眼睛一亮,不斷點頭稱是,或是感到驚愕。更重要的是,作品本身趣味十足,讓我不知不覺中以為在讀一本小說,最後更不知為何,竟然哭了出來。──伊坂幸太郎

  每個人內心都住著一個哲學家,同時也住著一個年輕人。或許我們都走過了年輕歲月對人生的疑惑與追尋,最終,我們終於成為我們生命的哲學家。我喜愛這本書,不只在它的書名所帶來的一種睿智及平靜,還有在於它的內容正是每個人都曾探問過的「人生是什麼?人活著而感受到的痛苦是為什麼?我們的人生究竟在追尋什麼?」等等這些人生問題的智慧對話。讀著讀著,心必有所感,那是你反覆經歷生活之後,你知道的,這些話語就是你生命走過的路。──心理諮商師、心靈療癒叢書作家 蘇絢慧

  如果佛洛伊德教導我們定位潛伏記憶深處的傷害,將之築成終身居住的小屋,反芻創傷帶來的宿命掙扎(要不是xxx,我早就xxx了),那麼阿德勒便是將我們逐出傷痛之屋、逼我們勇於面對當下每一決定的嚴師(原來是我把自己害得那麼慘)。讀完《被討厭的勇氣》,身為佛洛伊德忠實信徒的我也不得不承認,阿德勒的理論,讓人燃起想好好活在當下、不為宿命捆綁束縛的信念與熱情。「只有自己能夠改變自己」,我會永遠這樣勉勵自己,不再逃避了。──逗點文創負責人 陳夏民

  在自我價值的一千零一夜中,有位智慧長者陪伴我們一起探索……《被討厭的勇氣》就是一個這樣的存在。那些潛藏於青年時期,在那個知識毫不留情地灌注腦袋的年代,我們心裡其實早浮現許多疑問,只是還來不及尋求解答:

  什麼是自由?什麼是我們想要的自由?
  什麼是現狀?什麼是讓我們不滿的現狀?
  什麼是當下?怎樣才叫活在當下?
  什麼叫分離?不再滿足別人的期待算不算分離?
  什麼叫勇氣?被討厭為什麼是一種奔向自由的勇氣?……

  這些生命議題,只要我們曾經想過,就像打開心靈之眼,將纏繞於腦海而不願離去。本書大量談論這些議題,卻不用「給你解答」的方式,而是透過哲學家和年輕人的心理對話,輕輕柔柔、卻又精準不已地,打動我們正在思考的困惑。就像聆聽一千零一夜的故事般,如此誠懇地帶我們巡迴過,這些存在於生命裡頭如此重要的思考。
  我很希望在我年輕時,就看過這本書,那麼也許我會更懂得,什麼叫做:不用辛苦地活在別人的期待裡。我又十分慶幸,在已經經歷一陣工作的洗練後,看了這本書,它啟發我:如何選擇與決定自己的未來。我想在更年長時,我還會再翻閱這本書,也許那時更能理解:原來接受「被討厭」,也是一種人生的豁達。──心理諮商師 許皓宜

  生命裡,我們雖然會受到過去經驗的影響,例如創傷經驗,而讓生命顯得遲滯困難。但這本書卻道出一條珍貴的路徑:即使過去如此,我們仍能堅定地拾起想要的生活目標,盯視內心所渴求的,然後重新做出選擇並努力著,想要的生命是可以這樣創造而來的。這樣的觀點還給人們身心很大的自由,我們絕對不是只能被過去事件所宰制,我想這應該就是阿德勒學派帶給世人最好的禮物之一了。──心理諮商師 黃錦敦

  給傷沒有很重,卻又很想改變的你:這會是一本好書,如果你沒有厚重的「傷」,又有一份很想改變很想創造幸福的「決心」。
  在助人工作領域二十年的歲月裡,我見過不少辛苦的生命,明明很想改變,但是卻莫名其妙地被過去埋藏深處的傷痕給拉了回去。這些生命的傷痕,有時候深到連主人自己都摸不著,像是鎖鏈層層深鎖的盒子。在我的諮商實務經驗裡,這樣深層厚重的傷,有時候真的需要安靜又有智慧的陪伴、等待、撫慰。
  然而,大部分的傷,沒有那麼厚重,如果你自己或身邊的朋友剛好屬於這樣的落點,那麼這本書提供了非常珍貴的出路。
  我的心裡有一個看待人如何得以改變移動的概念圖,那些生命的「傷/困境」像是槓桿左邊把人往下壓的積累重物,而生命的主人如果在生活裡累積了足夠的資源、扎實地活出力量,就有機會開始累積成槓桿右邊的新施力點。

  什麼時刻,生命的槓桿會有機會開始往向陽處移動?
  這本書透過哲學家與年輕人的對話,用一整本書的精彩內容,好好地勾勒出「如何在自己生命的槓桿施力」。一個人的槓桿如果已經傾斜向下那麼多日子了,當然不會一下子就改變,我自己很喜歡書裡的幾個經典的使力施力概念:

  「從等待別人改變到決心自己要改變。」
  「重新選擇的可能性/活出什麼樣的可能性,是可以選擇的。」
  「把競賽對象變成夥伴關係。」
  「因為擁有了被討厭的勇氣,於是有了真正幸福的可能。」
  「甘於平凡的勇氣。」……

  書中最讓我驚豔的一段描述是哲學家說著:「難道我們為了別人的認同,就必須在坡道上不斷翻滾嗎?要像滾動的石頭一樣損耗自我,直到失去原來的形狀,變得圓滑為止嗎?」唉唷喂呀~真是立體極了的描述呀!我們常常一不小心走了這個流程:因為怕別人不喜歡我,因而擔心焦慮,於是越活越差越不喜歡自己。如果我們想走去相反邊的那個方向,就可以想像自己,像是書中說的:「真正的自由其實是將滾落的自己由下往上推的態度」,與其終日擔心受怕自己沒有符合別人的期待,不如,一步一腳印,每天清晨一起床,就好好的問自己:生命的這個時刻,我最想創造的,是什麼?問了,然後就去創造一分一秒的美好!
  這麼一來,即使是看似長遠的上坡路,即使會揮汗吃力,但是,美好的這個時刻,生命槓桿的施力點,正正的,真實的,落在自己的手裡、腳底。
  「被討厭的勇氣」並不是要去吸引被討厭的負向能量,而是,如果這是我生命想活出的核心渴望,那麼,即使有被討厭的可能,我都要用自己的雙手雙腳往那裡走去。真摯地祝福,打從心底想創造美好的你。──諮商輔導博士,《做自己還是做罐頭》、熱情渴望卡作者 黃士鈞(哈克)

  一部振奮人心又好讀易懂的心靈作品。它振振有詞地否定了我們舊時的心理創傷,讓人無法辯駁;並指出所有的煩惱都是來自人際關係,最重要的就是:放下自己「認同」的需求,與他人的課題分離。然後非常務實地告訴我們如何找到自己的中心,認真地活在當下。看完之後,你絕對可以為你無意義的人生增添美麗色彩的意義。好書!──身心靈作家 張德芬

  這本書不斷地提出各類有趣的邏輯陷阱,讓讀者隨著書中年輕人的發問,一次又一次地試探自己的思考中心到底是否會受哲學家牽引,因為哲學家對於「目的論」跟「決定論」的想法始終能夠拉扯出許多凡夫俗子陷入的謬論與自以為是。讓哲學家帶領你經歷一場邏輯思辨三溫暖,保證你看完之後會重新釐出新的宇宙觀,這才是《被討厭的勇氣》最值得閱讀的原因。 ──影評人 膝關節

  我一直認為,每個人對自己的人生擁有絕對的詮釋權,這是任何人都奪不走的。明白這個道理是我三十二歲那年,活到不想活不下去時得到的意外禮物。此後遇見挫敗哀傷,我不會再回頭連結過往的悲慘記憶,告訴自己有多可憐,因為它們已經被我「重新定義」,慢慢轉化成養分了。因此遇見這本書的「目的論」時,我非常驚喜!原來這個「魔法」早就有人發現。這是我們與生俱來的魔法,請發現它,並好好地運用它。──資深譯者 陳系美

讀者淚推:阿德勒,是你救了我一命!

  兩年前,我得了憂鬱症;不,讀了這本書之後,我相信是自己「選擇」得了憂鬱症。更讓我驚訝的是,當初為了回歸社會所做的練習和回歸後的心情,竟然都跟書中的描寫一模一樣。謝謝你,阿德勒,原來是你救了我一命。──麻吉

  衝擊力很強的一本書。對父母來說,「守護但不介入」是非常困難的事,但是我無論如何都不想讓孩子變成只會看別人臉色的人。即使將來孩子長大成人了,我相信這本書對我或他依然非常有用。──Unicorn

  幾年前開始,我就一直想「擺脫認同的需求」。我覺得為了得到認同而活得小心翼翼是不對的,又找不出適合的方法,沒想到這本書竟然解決了我多年的問題!真是太酷了!──Matsu

  我在不久前創業,為了爭取客戶,必須花很多時間跟人往來、看人臉色。在我非常煩惱的時候,「選擇一條自認為最好的道路」這句話讓我又有了自信,非常推薦給從事業務的各位。──muku

書店職人推薦:連靈魂都在共鳴!

  超名作誕生!我覺得自己的靈魂好像「咚~」地不斷作響。──喜久屋書店阿倍野店店員

  讀這本書時,說不定會覺得有點「怪怪的」,但這些「怪怪的」地方才是你非讀它不可的原因。──紀伊國屋書店澀谷店店員

  本書不但把心理學家阿德勒的思想整理得很清楚,對話形式也很易於吸收,閱讀起來充滿樂趣。──TSUTAYA大崎站前店店員
 

作者介紹

作者簡介

岸見一郎


  哲學家。1956年生於京都,居於京都。高中開始以哲學為志向,進入大學後,經常成為老師家中的不速之客,不時與老師展開唇槍舌戰。京都大學研究所文學研究科博士課程結業。除了專攻哲學(西洋古代哲學,尤其是柏拉圖哲學)外,1989年起開始研究阿德勒心理學。積極從事阿德勒心理學及古代哲學的著述、演講,並擔任多家醫院精神科的「年輕人」心理諮商,同時也是日本阿德勒心理學會認定的諮商師與顧問。

古賀史健

  自由撰稿人。1973年生。專門以聽寫記錄的方式從事書籍撰寫,參與過許多暢銷的商業書刊,以及非小說類書籍的出版。所撰寫的訪談稿,向來以臨場感及節奏感十足而頗受好評。

譯者簡介

葉小燕


  日語教學與翻譯工作是我快樂的泉源。目前為兼職譯者、日語教師、臺灣高等法院特約通譯。



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Overall Opinion: This was a fun read. I liked it. The banter and friendship these two had was great, and I loved how Allie knocked Dean off his feet. My main criticisms are that we really didn't need to experience the almost threesome at the beginning. I mean -- we get it...he's a Manho! BUT I didn't need to know descriptive details! The other is that I needed a jump ahead epilogue -- like I always do ;). They had some great things lined up for their futures, but I really wanted to see how it all went for them when they were older. Brief Summary of the Storyline: This is Allie and Dean's story. Allie has (yet again) broken up with her boyfriend, and turns to her best friend Hannah (who we met in the first book The Deal). Hannah is out of town with her boyfriend, Garrett, and he offers to let Allie stay at his house to avoid the ex that keeps on texting and saying that he is coming over. That is when she runs in to Dean because he lives with Garrett. They spend the rest of the evening together with Dean being deemed her relationship coach with the job of keeping her from texting/calling her ex and taking him back. They end up getting drunk and sleeping together. Dean is ruined after that night for other women and is hooked on Allie. They start a friendship-with-benefits of sorts that of course turns into more. There are some laugh out loud moments, some sad moments, some sexy moments, and some sweet moments...and the couple get their HFN ending. POV: This alternated between Allie and Dean's POV. Overall Pace of Story: Good. It flowed well, and I didn't skim. The major drama did happen later in the book than usual, so it was cutting it close for things to get back to good IMO, but I felt like it was sufficiently addressed and handled. Instalove:No. They had some good development before they were into love status. H rating: 4 stars. Dean. I was surprised I'd like him so much, but I really did. We got to understand why he was the way he was regarding his sexual history, so that made him a lot more likable. I loved his interactions with the kids, and he was an overall good guy regardless of his past sexual acticities. h rating: 4.5 stars. Allie. I really liked her. She was super sweet, a wildcat in the bedroom, and she was really ambitious. Sadness level: Low/moderate. I had one time that I teared up, but I didn't need tissues and it didn't turn into an ugly cry. Heat level: Moderate. They had great chemistry and had some steamy times (some were just mentions of the experiences so it didn't become just about the sex). Descriptive sex: Yes. Safe sex: Yes. Condoms were used until they were in a committed relationship, and then testing and birth control discussions happened. OW/OM drama: Surprisingly no for OW, but yes for OM. The h's ex showed up and texted trying to win her back. Sex scene with OW or OM: Yes Closure: This didn't have enough closure for me at all. I really wanted a jump ahead epilogue to see their lives when they were older. I would call it a HFN ending (which I think is the norm with this series). How I got it: I paid the $4.99 on Amazon.
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Too Many Problems Deterred My Enjoyment
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Elle Kennedy's was one of my favorite romances from 2015. I loved the progression of the relationship between the two leads and felt that the book handled the issue of past sexual assault really well compared to other books in the genre. Then came . The romance in this story was not as compelling to me, but I appreciated how the author really put thought and effort into portraying the hero's struggle with familial obligations versus the pursuit of his dreams. Both these previous books in the Off-Campus series depict college relationships and the struggles of emerging adulthood realistically--something that I feel is oftentimes missing in New Adult novels. It is rare for me to find books in the genre relatable (ironic, given that I was a college student less than a year ago and should theoretically be the readership these books are marketed to), which makes my enjoyment of Elle Kennedy's books especially precious. I was counting down the days to its release and finished it in a matter of hours. And it was...kind of meh. The published synopsis really does not properly describe the story, so let me first quickly summarize the key points anyone needs to know: Allie is an aspiring actress who is trying to figure out whether she should aim for a television or a stage career. She recently broke up with her on-again-off-again ex-boyfriend and in her heartbreak, she cannot even imagine getting into a relationship with anyone else. She has a one-night stand with Dean, a rich college hockey star, who is only after casual sex. They decide to have a fling, but must keep it a secret because they have many mutual friends. There were so many things that bothered me about this book, I actually had to make a list. 1. The gratuitous scene involving Dean in a threesome with two girls is unappealing and unnecessary. I am not marking this as a spoiler because it is a scene found at the very beginning of the book (2% into the Kindle version) and really does not have a point. I do not understand why this scene was not cut out or at least shortened in the editing process. What does it serve to do? To show that Dean is sexually promiscuous? It is pretty clear to the reader that Dean is sexually promiscuous. He mentions it all the time. Other characters mention it all the time. Girls hit on him and he flirts with them all the time. There is no need for us to read in explicit detail his fun fun times. Perhaps the scene is there to titillate the reader? It just made me feel very uncomfortable because I was wondering the entire time whether these two women were actually into each other or whether they were merely performing for his sexual satisfaction. We later find out that, yes, these two are in fact interested in having sex with each other as well, but that is later on. During the scene I remained unsure, which makes it kind of icky. 2. The old "she ruined my penis for other women" trope. This is a convention I hate in romances. Nothing pulls me out of the story faster than this because it is not realistic, nor do I find it particularly romantic that the hero cannot get sexually aroused by anyone but the heroine. People, no matter how in love (and Dean was most definitely not in love when this occurs in the story), can still be aroused by others. It is basic biology. No one has the voodoo genitalia that can prevent their partners from feeling sexual attraction to another person. It is whether your partner will act on this attraction that will make or break a relationship. This is especially important when your partner is someone like Dean, who makes it a point to never get into serious relationships. Whether he can actually commit to Allie is a serious question, but the author decides to wave this aside by giving Allie a magical vagina. I mean, if she's the only one his penis will respond to, is it any wonder they get together? She's his last hope! 3. Neither of the characters are particularly well fleshed out. It is as if Kennedy just listed a bunch of traits she wanted the characters to have in order to keep them interesting and then just decides to write in whatever plot points she wanted without bothering to explore the characters. For example, Dean is a rich playboy who does whatever he wants. His motto is to live by his own rules and desires and outside of a few incidents here and there, his life is pretty swell. The only potential problem in his life is that he plans to attend law school after college even though he does not have an interest in it. Dean honestly bores me to tears because for most of the book nothing is done with his character. He lives in his happy Dean world and if anything disturbs his world (Allie's magical, yet elusive vagina) he rushes to solve it with a gusto, and then settles back to his happy Dean life. I mean, does this guy even have any hobbies outside of hockey and sex? I guess the previous heroes in the series were caught up in hockey and sex too, but at least they were intensely serious about hockey. Dean isn't as interested in the sport, which is fine, but that means his main interest in life that we know of is sex. Which is kind of sad (this is the last time I will mention magical genitalia, I swear!), since Allie's basically ruined his willy from sex with other people. Seriously, though, Kennedy tries to give him more interesting things to do by having him volunteer to coach a boys' hockey team but this is really something his new assistant coach forces on him and even when he finds interest in doing it, it does not even begin to fill the blank canvas that is his life. The author then, again, tries to challenge and deepen Dean's character with the story's final conflict, but it just does not work for me (see below). Allie's character is more interesting, yet more frustrating because of all the wasted potential. She's an aspiring actress who is struggling with her future career plans and worrying about how to take care of her father, who has multiple-sclerosis. Making it as an actress depends a great deal on luck and opportunity and very talented people can spend years and years without getting anywhere. It is a very risky career choice, especially when you have a dependent who requires close care-taking and high medical costs. But does the story focus--nay even attempt to address these potential problems? Noooo. Instead, Allie spends most of her time debating whether she should look at casting offers in L.A. or trying to make it on Broadway. And banging Dean, of course. Her father vaguely factors into her worries about her career, but not to an extent that one would expect him to. I mean, I guess it is great and all for her to have so many opportunities as an actress, but, really, what is the point of making this career choice a part of her character if she does not even have to struggle with one of the most basic aspects of it? 4. Interesting relationship conflicts are brought up, but never resolved satisfactorily. An ongoing worry for Allie is her inability to separate sex from relationships. She cannot keep it casual and since adolescence she has never gone long being single. She even worries later in the story whether she has a co-dependency problem. It does not appear to me, personally, that she has a co-dependency problem, since she makes most of her life and career decisions with her own interests in mind and actually breaks up with her ex-boyfriend when he wanted to dictate her future for her. Nevertheless, I think it is perfectly valid and even healthy for someone who has always had long-term relationships to want to stay single for a while. Unfortunately, Allie does not get to experience this at all. She goes from breaking up with her ex to being sex buddies with Dean (since they decide to be exclusive and she admits she has a hard time separating sex from commitment, I do not count this as being single) to being Dean's girlfriend. She does experience a minor break from Dean toward the end of the book, but that is only for about a month before she is back with him again for their happily ever after. And since this is a romance, happily ever after means permanence. While an HEA is good and all, I am left feeling a bit sad that Allie never really got to experience adult life not being romantically attached to another person. The bigger conflict of the series is whether Dean, with his pampered life, will actually be able to support Allie when the times get rough. Allie's dad does not think so, which is a huge foreshadowing that Dean's ability to be there for her will be no doubt be tested by a Tragic Incident. I will not elaborate on the Tragic Incident, because spoilers, but suffice to say that it is definitely devastating for the people affected. However, the strange thing is...the incident does not affect Allie. Instead, it is an incident that is pertinent to Dean. And he falls apart and has a very hard time coping. And Allie makes a decision that, while I think is reasonable, ruins the entire climax of the story for me (see spoiler for details). **********SPOILERS!!!!!!!!!!!**************** After a few weeks of not being able to pull him from his grief, Allie just leaves Dean. I have two major problems with this: firstly, how on earth does this prove that Allie's dad is right in saying Dean would not be able to support Allie in trying times? If anything, this shows that Allie might not be the best pillar of support for Dean when tragedies happen. Secondly, I honestly understand why she leaves--she has her own life and she cannot and should not be jeopardizing her future to be his caretaker. That said, it really, really baffles me that she does not make any attempt to get him any help. She reasons that he is not in a bad enough state for professional help, but couldn't she at least contact his family? She knows his sister. She should have at least given her a call to make sure someone would be there for him rather than just leaving him to his own devices. Sure, he is still highly functional when she leaves him, but his behavior is also getting more and more self-destructive. This is kind of a terrible thing to do to anyone, never mind your boyfriend. Again, perhaps she really should have tried out that single life for a while. **********END OF SPOILERS**************** 5. The ending is way too pat. Everybody gets what they want and potential conflict (Dean's changes in future aspirations, having a long distance relationship after college, etc.) is completely resolved by the rosy wand of plot. I would rejoice at this if I actually felt that the story ever attempted to explore any of its major conflicts. Alas, it does not, so the fairy tale conclusion does not feel hard-earned and just makes me feel grumpy. Whew. That was really a long rant. Now briefly on to the good things: The saving grace of this book and why, to a certain extent, I understand why other people would give it a high score is that the characters actually fare much better when they are together than when they are apart. Not only do Dean and Allie develop a happy, loving relationship, but their relationship is also one based on mutual respect, communication, and trust. Fancy that! A romance novel where characters actually talk to each other and trust that their partners will keep their promises of commitment! I especially like how their feelings of love grow not from outside forces (like jealousy over potential suitors) but from extended time spent with one another. Their conversations are quirky and fun to read and you can tell how much they genuinely like and care about each other. If this is enough to satisfy you as a reader and you are not bothered by the things I mentioned above, you would like this book just fine. I think I just have a stronger bone to chew on regarding this one because the characters are so close in age to me, so I have a harder time waving away problems with my "But it's just fantasy!" hand. What is especially disappointing to me is that this was written by an author whose work I had really enjoyed in the past. Again, I am not a huge fan of New Adult romances. College is a time of great personal development and life transitions. I wish NA books will take this setting into more serious consideration. You can have romance and still have characters dealing with complex situations that are relevant to this stage in their lives. But c'est la vie, I suppose. Oh, by the way, since I guess I should mention it: the sex scenes are pretty steamy. Unfortunately, the squick I felt from the aforementioned threesome scene poisoned any hot lovin' the rest of the book had to offer, so I just skimmed. But there was a lot of skimming, so the book is packed for those who wish to know! Rating: B-
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Reviewed in the United States on January 12, 2016
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Belleville, US
★★★★★ 5
Daddy Dean & Allie Cat ❤️‍🔥
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Reading before the series begins. Dean and Allie became my favorite couple of the series. I this book so much. It’s a physical fast burn with an emotional slow burn and I was entertained throughout. The banter, the denial, the jealousy, the building of trust, the emotional aspect later and the heartache. Dean and Allie are so unapologetically themselves and 2 strong personalities clashing is fun. Dean needs someone like Allie to humble him. Each others perfect match.
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Reviewed in the United States on May 9, 2026
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Lucy MB
Cuba, US
★★★★★ 5
Best in the series!
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Let me start off by saying that The Deal - which was book #1 in the Off Campus Series was one of my top 5 picks of 2015. I could go on about the ways I loved that book, but I won't do that now---read my review here for a refresher. I wanted to add that because The Score is now officially my favorite book in the series. This story completely SLAYED me! I was not ready for the level of TRILLNESS* Ms. Kennedy was going to be bringing to this story. what I want This is Dean's book. You'll remember him from The Deal and The Mistake. He was the privileged. exhibitionist roommate of Garett, Logan and Tucker. In this story we learn that there is so much more to Dean that meets the eye. Allie is also a throwback character from The Deal- she is Hannah's best friend and roommate. We catch up with Allie as she is ending things with her on again/off again boyfriend. She goes to the house shared by Garrett and Co in search of a safe haven while she gets over her break up. She ends up getting much more than she bargained for. Dean is drop dead gorgeous and knows it. He is used to women being a very easy field to navigate. Allie is tricky because she is Hannah's friend and because she really doesn't seem to want more than one night with Dean. looking at him Dean pursues Allie pretty relentlessly and when she finally gives him an opening, he is determined to bust it wide open and get his girl. Watching the relationship develop between Dean and Allie is so sweet. There are moments that even weeks after reading the book make my heart beat a little faster to think about. We see the unexpectedly tender moments between these two where you get the feeling that they even surprise themselves. They fall in love with each other and once that train leaves the station there is not turning back whatsoeevr. You really get the sense that in Allie, Dean has found a women he never expected to...someone who is as honestly sexual as he is. like me As with the other stories in this series, the sex is off the charts hot and the chemistry between the characters is palpable and exciting. Ms. Kennedy has a refreshingly modern and feminist approach to sex and relationships and it makes the characters VERY likable. Just like his roommates, Garrett and Logan, Dean has met the woman who makes him want to forsake all others. These young men find more than just love in these stories. They also find the courage of their convictions and make major decisions that will affect the rest of the their lives. There is a big family dynamic in the story that introduces to Allie's father and Dean's family as well. We get to interact with some recurring background characters from the previous books. One of them, plays a HUGE role that let me feeling like I'd been punched in the gut. I was crying and asking "why" for so long after I finished this book. Dean was such a pleasant surprise. He was not perfect by any means, and there are moments where you will feel disappointed in him. But he works hard, loves hard and has the desire to be a better person every day. I LOVED him. I loved Allie for hm and I absolutely LOVED this book. I would give it 5 more stars if I could. *Trillness= Realness in Houston, TX slang!
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Reviewed in the United States on January 11, 2016
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jenn_azhere
Belleville, US
★★★★★ 4
book 3
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This was a great read!! I love Dean and Allies story, the backstories that are implemented, and how much the characters grew. I did feel a little sorry for Sean even though I shouldn’t. The growth, spice, and story was a good read. Highly recommend! Now onto Tuckers story!!
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Reviewed in the United States on May 27, 2026

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